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Love beyond friendship?
C&O asked:
I’ve been in love with a girl for three years. She’s now one of my best friends.
By a cosmic accident that I don’t want to explain, she told me by text that she doesn’t love me romantically, but loves me like a brother and a best friend.
I’ve been thinking about it, and I’m considering telling her the whole truth about how I feel.
I’ve been in love with a girl for three years. She’s now one of my best friends.
By a cosmic accident that I don’t want to explain, she told me by text that she doesn’t love me romantically, but loves me like a brother and a best friend.
I’ve been thinking about it, and I’m considering telling her the whole truth about how I feel.
For girls, does hearing from a friend that he love you and will do anything for you change your feelings toward him?
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15. June 2009 at 8:34 am :
Most of the time unfortunately no. It can make the situation awkward especially since she told you she didn’t have romantic feelings for you.
But if there’s that voice that tells you to take a chance then you never know what my transpire. It’ll gnaw at you until you act on it. Best of luck.
15. June 2009 at 5:37 pm :
Sorry, but you’re already in the friend’s zone which is epically hard to get out of. You definitely don’t want her to force herself into liking you because it wouldn’t be fair to you.
In a future sense, I wouldn’t give up hope though because you never know where life will lead you. Maybe you will feeling this way will pay off in the future.
19. June 2009 at 12:25 am :
Tell her what you feel. I think that would not ruin your friendship with her, or brings awkwardness. Tell here that being in love with is another level of your friendship, or another high step of the friendship.
20. June 2009 at 2:31 pm :
Some girls might take issue with it just on instinct but good close friends ought to be able to be open about that sort of thing and talk about it. On the other hand if she says she doesn’t return those feelings or doesn’t want a relationship you need to respect that and move on and keep treating them as just a friend and nothing else. Otherwise you WILL creep them out and push them away. It might take some hardship but if you act mature about it and respect them and their choices no matter what and they are a good friend and will respect you as well for being open and honest. Might cause some weirdness for a bit but openness and honesty is key.
Don’t expect anything except maybe rejection. She will be awkwarded out by it. The important part about this is not finding out if she returns those feelings. The important part is being honest in your friendships. If good comes from it great, but don’t get your hopes up too much or it will just make it harder to move on back to friendship later on.
22. June 2009 at 12:25 pm :
absolutely not!!!if she told you you are like a brother ….well would you date your sister,probabaly not, right!! so i think she made it clear that she doesnt want to date you.and she probably felt your attraction to her which is why she told you that!!! sorry but get a clue bud!
24. June 2009 at 2:21 pm :
See my answer in the other posting of this question